A Family Of 4
Just over 2 weeks ago our family turned into a family of 4 sooner than we expected. If you read Lincoln’s birth story that was published last week you’ll have seen that i was scheduled to have a C-section on the 20th October but I actually went into labour 5 days prior to this date. If you’d like to read Lincoln’s birth story you can here. Being a family of 4 has definitely changed the house dynamics a lot.
A Family of 4
Minnie reacted completely different to how I expected her or had been told she may react. I was adamant she was going to be super loving from the get go, everyone else mentioned that there was quite a high possibility of her being jealous. This wasn’t the case though. She took a massive step back, She withdrew herself from me and Lincoln and became very attached to Stewart. It took her a couple of days to finally come round and start cuddling me again and showing an interest in her brand new baby brother.
Since then however, she’s been an absolute sweetheart and has done nothing short of what I expected from her as a big sister. She absolutely adores Lincoln and it makes my heart melt every time I see her being affectionate. She helps me change his bum, she will give it a wipe and apply nappy cream if it’s needed. If he cries she runs to his aid and strokes his head. This morning (on the day I wrote this post!) I was doing my make up and both children were on my bed and I turned round to check on them to see her holding Lincoln’s hand whilst she watched her iPad. ADORABLE.
Trying to adjust to a whole new routine has been the most gruelling part on every single one of us. Having 4 of us in a bedroom due to lack of space because we’re supposed to be moving soon means that If Lincoln wakes up upset, so does Minnie and visa versa. One child is much easier to settle and get back to sleep apposed to the other though so it’s really not ideal and we do have nights where both kids are crying at us. The sooner we can get moved and Minnie settled into her own room the better because it’s really taking a toll.
The real test though has been for me when Stewart was required back at work, he only got a week off to settle in with Lincoln and then he had a week working from home which meant I had to foot a lot of the work. Minnie’s hard work when Stewart’s working from home though, she just see’s Stewart as ”daddy – there to play” and obviously because he’s working he can’t give her much attention and that really boils her blood and then we get a very grumpy and grouchy toddler. He will be going to work back in office in a couple of days though, that will be the real tester for me.
Luckily though we’ve come up with a really great strategy to help us cope with the feeding and looking after of both children, We have a feeding schedule alongside shifts and that means we both get a decent amount of sleep in. Life is so good at the moment and we are so full of love and happiness and I cannot wait to see what the future holds.